Wednesday, October 4, 2017

" Self "





                Dear Reader,
The following is going to no doubt sound like just another whining rant to you from the heart and mind a disturbed and depressed upon soul.
                Though in truth, I really do not care what you think.
For you see… this post is not for you, the reader… so much as it is for me,… the author.
A way for me to analyze myself. Hypothesize myself. And deduce the solution/solutions to an age old personal affliction….

I’ve been feeling severely, extremely depressed lately.
Not because of anything in particular, I suppose. But then… it seems the feeling is made worse whenever I go out.
Why is it we are bombarded by it in the media today? It’s not just online. It’s not just on television, radio, news, magazines… it’s everywhere!
I can’t even rely solely on school to be an escape from it!
Another student mentioned that she also suffered from depression in a classroom discussion… She said, that school was like her support group.
Not for me….

I don’t know how many times, I’ve been forced to watch an educational video for class, and felt intensely more depressed coming off of it!
Why?
Why you ask?

Because…

It’s the same reason that I DON’T like to watch very much television anymore.

“Nothing is more important than family!” – That was a quote from a new popular series introduced on FOX recently.
It really doesn’t matter which one… their all the same…
Family is everything…

Is there a pressure behind it?
Is there a subliminal message that a group of individuals are trying to get through to the masses?

Frankly…
                At this point?...
I don’t really give a rats ass!

But it pisses me off to no end.

So why the abject isolation?
                That is why!!

                Family…
You walk through a store… and what do you see? Nice things… things you can’t afford.
Nice people… people with families. People with friends. People who have people to talk to regularly. People who… are never alone. People who wouldn’t last a day in your kind of self-purging isolation.

And then… you see adverts like that…
And school lectures on how to be happy…
And they say things like:           “Nurture you relationships. Spend time with family and friends. Cherish the little things in life. Be grateful. And share with others…”

Right.

Who?

I’ve lost every friend I’ve ever tried to keep. Like holding onto water as it falls like rain…
And the ones that are still here for me, I cannot rely upon to always be there when I need them. When can you lean upon a friend?
When you have one you can lean upon?

Never had one like that…

Guess, I’ve never been one either.

Though I’ve tried to be there…
                Makes no difference, really.

But simple friendship is soo far from the general problem…
                And nobody believes in room mates anymore.

Irony…
                Irony… is… when people talk to you and are amazed that you are thirty years of age!
Because you look soo young…
                Because you act young…
                                Because you can’t truly grow up…
                                                Because. . .

And the more I get around others, the more uncomfortable I am starting to feel…

                Like…
                                Some kind of outcast. Some kind of freak.
A destitute woman, for certain. And she is a grown child walking alone.

A sad life for anyone.





                Like the woman in “Diabolique”……. Only. . . she had a husband… And a friend… HAD.





               
Doesn’t that old man… who lives alone down the street?...
Doesn’t he have friends who visit with him, also?
                Relatives?
                                He gives to others…
                                                He visits people…
                He gets out… doesn’t he?

But for all I know, he does have family somewhere.

Children and such.

And even the widow who lives below me…
                Has family she sees.

What kind of separate creature am I?
                That I cannot integrate among the larger herds?

I’m finding it more and more difficult each day to be among them…

                Lost feelings, like I don’t belong. And lucid day dreams of what it would be like to have some friends. Friends you see on the regular. And talk to. And hang with.

But for some reason. With me, that always leads to trouble.
                And I’m soo tired of trying…
And trying to be someone I’m not. Just to fit in…


It’s also the reason I can’t seem to make the meetings…
                The last few I went to, I remember sitting through with tears. People thought I was just mourning the loss of someone. Others used to think it was just my depression.

I suppose that is what it is…
                The depression…
                                But every meeting?

. . . . You sit through meeting after meeting, crying in your seat. Weeping and trying to stay quiet, while they speak…
                After awhile, you realize…
                                You feel this way, because… even the few friends you have here… have lives and families of their own…
Brothers and sisters…

                For a brother. . . or a sister… they sure don’t like to spend time with you…
Maybe because I’m always depressed?
                Gee, I wonder why?
Or perhaps because they have lives of their own, families, and such…

After a while… it gets harder and harder to be around others…
                Even for brief periods of time. . .
                                Watching parents interact with their kids. Parents my age. Some even younger
Married folk… sharing the spiritual load.
                Men taking the lead… talking about other brothers and sisters who are doing great things… because they had such a great support system at home. Or they are married and simplifying their lives…
                You hear more about family worship… than anything else.
I’d always worship alone.

                After a while, it just gets hard.
To sit there… and pretend like your ok with not having a family like that. Ok with having few friends. All of whome …have either been married, or had children…

                So… in essence. They really can’t fully relate to you… despite how close you try to be…


So… now you know… the why…
                The forced isolation.
                The forced loner’s calling…

                When. . . ever… there is. . . such great pain… over lucid thoughts. . . . . of a never-ending stream of . . . “How to be Happy”… commercials, advertisements, television shows, media, social online, school videos, radio, the list has no end… one has little choice really…
But to return to the only joys which you might have left in life.

                And I find I’m happiest alone.
                                                When I’m not around it all.

Because… I guess. . . I don’t belong…………………………………………………………………………




~ 10-04-17




~ CL 

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